When a relationship ends, people often want to confide in their friends and family members. However, sometimes this does not seem possible. If your relationship with a wife or girlfriend ended because she abused you, telling friends and family about it may seem hopeless. Since most men who are abused by women are embarrassed by it, they often choose not to discuss it with others. Here are some of the things that you should think about if you are interested in telling friends and family about a wife or girlfriend who abused you.
People are Becoming More Aware of Abusive Women
For years, many people did not realize that there were so many abusive women out there. As the amount of information which is being introduced to the media about this particular issue increases, people are beginning to accept that abuse of men does happen. What this is means is that some of the people who may have laughed at or said that male abuse could not happen in the past probably will feel sympathy for those that it happens to.
No One Should Find Abuse of Men Funny, in Any Way
Although people in general have become more accepting of the idea of male abuse, there are many who still do not realize or believe that it happens. There are still some people out there who criticize people for male abuse and, in some cases, may even laugh about it. No one should find this serious issue funny, much the same way that no one should find abuse of women funny. If someone laughs at you for being abused by a woman, whether they are a man or woman them self, you should not feel ashamed if you are no longer able to respect that individual. It is simply uncalled for.
You Should Not Need to Feel Ashamed of Abuse
Whether your former partner abused you mentally or physically, you should not need to feel ashamed of this. Although there are always going to be non-believers and bigots, there are many people who will understand what you have gone through and will offer you the support that you deserve. No one should make fun of you and, more importantly, you should not feel afraid of this happening. There is no reason to be ashamed for being abused, whether you are a man or a woman.
Sometimes Things are Better Left Unsaid
Although you may want to tell your friends and family about your former girlfriend or wife abusing you, sometimes things are better left unsaid. If you already know about the type of attitude that a certain friend or family member has about women abusing men, it is best to take it into consideration. Also be sure to keep in mind that if you see yourself getting back together with the woman who abused you, despite the fact that it happened, you may want to avoid telling other people about it. This is also true if the person has an open, close relationship with the woman that abused you.
There’s No Need to Wait Until After the Fact
Often, men and women both wait to talk about abuse until after it has happened. There is no need to do this. If you want someone to confide in, you should not feel afraid to talk about it before the relationship has ended. Advice and support is what helps out most people in this situation. Whether your friends or family members simply listen or provide you with a good support group, telling them while the abuse is happening really may be in your best interest.
Abuse is not something that anybody should need to do deal with. Having a support base is a very good idea, especially since abuse can cause a lot of emotional issues to occur. In the right situation, support from friends and family can really save someone’s life. There is no reason that you should not take advantage of this type of support if you feel that you need it. While you may think that most people will see you as weak or less of a man, it may be surprising for you to see how understanding some people will be.