Years ago, it was common place for parents to get married if a child was conceived to assure that the child would be provided for in the best way possible. Now days more and more parents are choosing not to get married simply because they are planning the arrival of a child.
Parents make the decision to get married or not, and sometimes that is a difficult decision but not always. The parents are the best judges to decide if their relationship is strong enough to with stand a marriage. The parents weight the decision while keeping the child’s best interest in mind.
Perhaps these parents know that they cannot get along well enough to live together, and then it is in the best interest of the child not to hear the bickering between the parents. Perhaps this baby was conceived as a one nightstand and there is not chance for a marriage, why put the child in the middle of that mess.
Truthfully, there is no point of getting married simply because there is a baby on the way any longer. The baby except for costs associated with the birth can be put on either parents insurance.
There is court ordered child support if the parents chose to live separately if they chose. Some couples who chose not to marry agree on child support while others cannot agree to any amount, so the court system must step in.
If the parents chose not to get married, they can work out visitation of the child, so that the child will grow up knowing both parents. Liberal visitations can be peacefully agreed upon or the court system can determine visitation.
If one parent decides not to be a part of the child’s life for some reason, the child is more then likely better off not knowing that parent. The unwilling parent is the one who misses the child’s life and that parent can easily be replaced by a pseudo parent who can provide that loving and nurturing environment for the child.
A couple is no longer looked down upon simply because they choose not to get married simply because there is a baby on the way. They simply become single parents without the hassle of a bad marriage and divorce, if they know beforehand that their relationship will not withstand a marriage.
There should not be any stigma attached to these parents who choose not to get married simply to follow what was once a tradition in America. These are smart parents in the eyes of many because they truly have the best interests of the child in mind.
Granted a child needs the loving nurturing home environment that could be provided by two parents, but when that is not feasible, there are solutions. Other solutions include visitation with both natural parents at different times, or with stepparents, as long as the child gets the love and attention, that child will be fine.